Whatever happened to kids playing cops and robbers, hide-and-go-seek, kick the can, or even building forts outside? When did our children start going from 3 to 13 in a blink of an eye? Who in the world would let their children dress or act like they do in Sext Up Kids?
My Initial thought, CONTROL YOUR KIDS PEOPLE!!
While watching the video Sext Up Kids I heard quotes such as:
“ You kind of get used to being called a slut, whore, bitch, etc”
“Porn is so available for children to look at.”
“Our children go from toddlers to teenagers way to fast.”
“Stupid is the new sexy.”
“You’re either Fuckable or Invisible.”
“In sex that you seen in porn the guy is on top. That is what sex should be like.”
“It’s more comfortable over text.”
WHAT IS THIS?! Why is this okay? Why are these statements considered true? It truly breaks my heart to watch a video like this. However, I think that we can learn a great deal from this.
Okay, so I want to share somethings that popped into my head when watching this video:
We always say that our children are influenced by our media and the environment that they are open to. Why is this a bad thing? When children have role models they have someone to look up to and turn to when they need help. That’s a good thing right? Well, what if their role models look like this…
Both Miley Cyrus and Barbie are discussed in this video as a huge role model for girls. When Miley was 15 she did her first “topless” photo shoot. I understand that she was mostly covered, but the message she was sending out was that it is okay to take photo’s without your clothes. Girls want to be like Miley. And although she is someone who followed her dreams and got what she wanted, she is considered a somewhat negative icon for girls.
And Barbie, how is she considered a good icon for young girls? She is “too perfect” that she could not even be a real person. Girls from a young age are looking up to Barbie wanting to be just like her. It is known that she is skinny, tall, and beautiful. But do people really know that Barbie was a real person that she would not even be able to support herself or function in any way possible? I had a discussion in my internship with the grade 7 and 8’s about the photo below and some of their responses were, “Why do people buy that for their children?”, “Who would want to walk around on all fours all day?”, “I don’t believe you Miss. Teacher Lady, are you serious? That is what she would look like in real life?” and even, “That is so not attractive.”
Photo Credit: Mail Online
I think that it is so important for us to be conscious of what you show and give your children/students. Teach them that these things SHOULD NOT be our normal, and to not let it influence them.
“Stupid is the new Sexy”
The comment “Stupid is the new Sexy” reminded me of Ashton Kutcher’s acceptance speech at the Teen Choice Awards. Ashton says, “The sexiest thing in the entire world, is being really smart. And being Thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap, I promise you.”
Photo Credit: WeheartIt
This is the best speech I have heard. Coming from a public icon like Ashton, I am sure that it meant a lot more to some girls than just hearing their mom say it. Show your students this and teach them what it really means to be sexy.
This reminded me of a program that I used to participate in and eventually run in my hometown while I was in school, called Girls on the Go. This program was just for girls in our community. We would gather at noon hours, after schools, and on weekends to do activities with them. We would bring in motivational speakers and other experts to talk about a number of different “girl topics”, which helped girls feel comfortable to talk about these things with others. It was a great program because the younger girls had older girls to look up to and hangout with. It was also great because it kept girls from going out and drinking with other kids. I think that this would be a great program to have up and running in schools to help prevent these issues from happening. I am not saying that it would solve it completely but it would be a step in the right directions.
Laci is a youtube sensation, public sex educator, and feminist activist. I had never heard of her until watching this video. And I am now, happy that I know what she does. Her videos range in topics from relationships, gender, sexuality, and body image. After learning about her, this video was shown to me in a class and I wanted to share it with you. This video discussed the topic of sexual objectification, which is touched on in Sext Up Kids.
It’s More Comfortable Over Text
This reminded me of a meme that I saw on facebook the other day. And I thought that it was perfect meme for this video.
Photo Credit: Whisper
How true is this? I feel this way, not so much with the flirting, but with things like difficult conversations such as conflict with others. So bad right! But I like the the fact that I can think about a reply before I send it and it doesn’t have to be right on the spot. But this is so horrible because of sexting. I fear that with texting and phones are taking away from the comfortableness of face to face conversation. I feel like it is important to always remind students how important it is for face to face conversations.
Finally, I am reminded of the bullying and harassment that can occur because of this. Some of the girls were saying that because of some of the decisions they made when they were younger made their high school years hard, and that even some of their family treated them differently. Amanda Todd, among many others, is a sad but fantastic example of what can happen with bullying and harassment combined with sexting. The Sextortion of Amanda Todd is a heartbreaking story of a young girl who experienced many of the topics in Sext Up Kids, and who ended up ending her life from bullying and harassment. I think that this is important for students of this age to see and who about so that history doesn’t repeat itself.
Although, these are not the only interesting messages, or the most important, they are the ones that I connected with while watching. After watching both Sext Up Kids and the Sextortion of Amanda Todd, my biggest worry, and also question is how do we properly teach our children and students about this topic so that we can try and prevent it from happening even further?